Love: Unconditional Affection

Part 1

“Boy meets girl, boy and girl fall in love.” This fairy tale model was a little too simplistic for my needs. You all want details, don’t you? Of course who doesn’t want!

Okay so this is my first attempt in writing blogs. My only intent for writing these blogs are to find a suitable medium to express my feelings – happiness, sadness, anger and despair. I am starting this Blog with a topic which most of my teenage friends will be able to relate – LOVE.This is one feeling that almost everyone has experienced during this age of theirs, though many won’t admit. Even your parents have gone through and they know what you may also be going through.

I’ve been waiting to write whatever I felt about the one I love since a very long time.  I have way too much to tell you all that I think I can write a book on this topic, but you see I don’t have the ability to put thoughts and write the way a writer does. I hope I am able to pour everything that I have inside me, out here. I myself have gone through many of the Blogs related to LOVE. Topics like ‘How do I know if the Girl likes Me or Not’ or “How do I know I LOVE someone’ are all quite famous and common on Internet. In this blog I will try to be as original as possible and try to cover all the things from the view point of a commoner, the things which I felt or had gone through, the time I had first fallen for a girl I immensely loved or actually still Love.

To point out that a word like LOVED doesn’t exist in any of the Dictionaries which is but obvious because the word is in past tense and also because as they say “True Love never ends”. Some people don’t believe in terms like TRUE Love and all….so a request to those people, this Blog is just not for you.

Note: Let me tell my readers, LOVE is an amazing feeling and it cannot be defined. The feeling is well above words to define it.

Now a question might pop up in your mind is how do you come to know whether you like a person or not? Well the answer to this question is not easy as it seems. There is no set formula for knowing this. You can understand whether you like (or love) a person, when while talking to them you can listen to your own heart beats and your common sense diminishes which makes you do all the craziest things seeing them. Sleepless nights and dreams of that particular person becomes a common phenomenon. Parte waqt bhi uski yaad sataaye toh samajh jaana that you have feelings for them which should not be ignored. But as I said there is no set formula to know this and things might be different for you.

When I first met her I couldn’t understand what was so special in her which made me pull towards her like she was a magnet. At first both of us took some time in approaching each other. Initially starting any conversation was very difficult. But everything just started to fall into place. I exactly don’t know when but somewhere down the line, I opened up without even realizing so. A point came when we started searching each other to talk our hearts out. When I fell in Love, I forgot almost everything and just kept thinking about her. I had found a person with whom I could spend my entire life. I felt she was a girl who completely forgot herself when she was with me. She completed me in every possible sense and I’m not a guy who will say these words jokingly. I have got to know her so much that I don’t even need to see her to know what’s going on within her (yes, you guessed it right I am talking about mind reading). Her face kept revolving in my head. I loved everything about her. She was my first thought in the morning, and even my last thought before I slept and in almost all thoughts in between. Anything that made me happy or sad was impacted by my interactions with her.  She made all my imperfections look perfect. It was like we both were meant to be with each other (Destiny, I would like to believe). I became so mad after her that every night I used to see her picture on my phone and sleep. Seems weird while reading? Even I felt so. When you fall in Love, you will also be doing such weird things.

I started looking forward to each day at school just because of her. Just one glimpse of her was enough to make my day. I loved the times that we spent together laughing, eating, chatting, the long corridor walks during breaks and nonetheless fighting, I loved it all. People say they hate fighting with their loved ones…but I have a totally different take on it. I loved fighting with her! For us our talk didn’t just end there in school but we would continue our talks over the phone even. Though usually didn’t have any particular topic to talk about but our talks used to continue for long hours (and by long I mean really LONGGG). Our talks were not limited to the phone either and continued even over WhatsApp or Hike. We could talk day long about our common interests, Shah Rukh Khan and Love

I used to change my WhatsApp DPs and Statuses everyday. Through them, I used to tell her what I never could have told her personally, they were like my silent messages to her.

And she used to ask me – ‘For whom do you put these DPs and statuses for?’ and I would reply ‘for you who else!’ and I am telling you it made me really happy that she noticed them. We used to continuously change our statuses. It became our mean of communication during fights. And this made the STATUS WAR start….every 5 mins. and we had a different status. And I found her updating those statuses for me very cute, it made be believe that I am important to her. But more than her my friends and family members used to go through them and always ask me ‘Bhai kiske liye hai tera DP’….and I used to reply ‘Kuch nahi esse hi.’ One of my DPs that I had put for her: But you know, to be honest (tbh) the advice that I will give now to my friends is to avoid WhatsApping to your loved ones as much as possible. The amazing feeling of hearing their voice over the phone or talking face-to-face is completely different and unparalleled. Plus, your messages can be misinterpreted and and cause misunderstanding between the two. So, please avoid! I would request all my friends and fellow readers to share all their thoughts and feelings with their siblings and BestFriends at least if you are not comfortable sharing what you are going through with your parents. They will always understand you, support you and will give the right advice. They will listen to u calmly and even clam you down. In my case I found this support in my elder sister and my BestFriend. This is the time when you won’t know what to do…..and you’ll be running out for your friends for their advice all the time.

During this time, when I fell in love; SONGs played an amazing part in supporting and encouraging me. It helped me cool down my anxiety. If nothing else; hearing these songs made me very happy from heart. Songs have a VOICE of their own. They strike a unique chord in your heart. Sometimes songs say more than words ever could. They are the silent message from your heart to the other person. I hope SONGs could one day be personified so that it could say its story.

To name a few of my PERSONAL FAVOURITES –

• I’ve Been Waiting For U – by Guys Next Door
• La Da Dee – by Cody Simpson
• MayBe – by Enrique Iglesias
• Tune Jo Na Kaha (from NewYork)
• Muskurane (from CityLight)
• Darmiyaan (from JodiBreaker)

[Don’t forget to check these songs out after leaving this Blog]

In the next part I’ll be covering not so Rosy part of Love. The story in the next part isn’t this Happy or made-in heaven types. The Next part of the story has Gloom, Sadness, Tear and a bit of hope that the person you Love may come back to you one day.

As Bob Marley has correctly put it in words – “If she is AMAZING she won’t be easy. If she is easy, she wont’ be amazing. If she is worth it, you won’t give up. If you give up, you’re not worthy….Truth is everybody is going to hurt you; you just got to find the one worth suffering for.”

So almost reaching at the end of this blog, I would like to include something. As I have gone through it and seen many of my friends suffer similarly, so it had to get a place in my blog. And this is my personal view and many might not agree. When you tell someone about you have feelings for them, i.e. Saying I LOVE U, there is only two possible reply either ‘I Love U Too’ or ‘Sorry but I don’t Love U’. There is no place for ‘I don’t know’ or ‘I am confused’. If you get such a reply consider it to be a polite NO from that person. Respect them because they said this because they didn’t want to hurt you; like many who may have hurt them at some point of time. Such answer can be possible if you ask them for any sort of commitment where they might not be sure, they might fear that you might leave them, or be it anything. But finally it comes down to a simple thing; either that person likes you or they don’t. So if you tell your feelings to someone, then request them to answer with simple a YES or a NO. ‘I don’t know’ and ‘I am confused’ will leave you nowhere because you won’t know whether you should wait for that person or should you try and move on. Your Heart will tell you to wait for them but your brain will signal you to move ahead in life.

So here I am ending this blog with a Shaayari:

Deewane uske naam ke; iss baat se humei inkaar nahi.

Kaise kahein ki humei unse pyaar nahi;

Kuch Kasoor toh hai unki aankhon ka,

Akele hi hum gunhegaar nahi!

I hope you all will be as eager as I myslef am reading the next part of this blog and all the upcoming Blogs on this page. So don’t forget to check out all the action here.

Stay Happy. Keep Smiling and Do Whatever you want to do man!  

Part 2 (will be published soon)

So till here everything described about LOVE seems to good and made-in heaven types but this isn’t the true picture. Happiness and Sadness are parts and parcel of Love or maybe the two sides of the same coin. When you fall in LOVE you ought to go through both of them. So prepare to shed some tears now………..