To the outside world, we all grow old. But not for our brothers and sisters. We know each other as we always were. We know each other’s hearts. We share private family jokes. We remember family feuds and secrets, family griefs and joys. We live outside the touch of time.
SIBLING. The word is self-explanatory in itself. It is one of the strongest and also one of the most enduring relationships of life. Friends may come and go, but one is always STUCK with their siblings for the rest of life. The impact they have on our life is enormous – they shape our minds and character, to a far greater extent than what is usually acknowledged.
Among the many flowers in the garden called life, siblings are the most magnificent of all.
Siblings become an integral part of our life as time passes by. Life seems almost impossible without them. They can be the ears to listen, the shoulder to cry on, and the conscience that knows you better than anyone else. Your sister’s smiling face or a pat on the back from your brother has more power than the motivational quotes you go through. When you join hands and become each other’s partners in crime, you bring out the best in each other.
Having a sibling is both a blessing and a curse. Finding trouble is not a difficult task when you are with them, but neither is making (and keeping) memories. Every single memory of your childhood, every single moment when chill ran down your spine, every ounce of something you wished that could have gone a little better; they’ve been there throughout, and experienced it with you even if you even if they weren’t there next to you at that moment.
Our bonding with our siblings remains the same, and it only grows stronger over time. You can never see anyone hurting your sibling, because only you are allowed to do that and no one else. Caring about no one’s opinion except your sibling’s, being protective about each other and saying SORRY in the cutest of ways when they get angry, blaming each other, kicking each other when you share the same bed and asking for help when you know you’re in deep trouble. All these are part and parcel of the relation with your sibling(s).
You like all their Facebook and Instagram posts, even if they don’t make a whole lot of sense to you. And sometimes you are the only person to like their post.
Old photo albums are filled with pictures basically summing up your love-hate relationship from childhood. If you have a sister then you must have got at least one makeover from her; or if you have a brother then you probably too like me have fallen victim to your brother’s pranks more than once. Whenever you are talking to any friend over phone, they’ll have to comment about something or the other to interrupt the conversation.
They are your savior at boring family gatherings. You so miss them when they aren’t around you. Even the most annoying things about them become a habit of yours. These are the things that make the bond between siblings unbreakable. I cannot wonder what life would have been like without siblings. Childhood memories would have been incomplete without them. In fact, we would vaguely remember parts of our childhood if it weren’t for our siblings. No matter how much they irritate us, tease us, fight with us; these intolerable creatures always did, always do and always will hold a part of our heart. Isn’t it amazing to be able to do things together and later on laugh at those stupid things done years ago?
Sibling relationships are always accompanied by the never ending power struggle to claim superiority over each other. Fights between siblings are a common sight. Fights can start over the most silly and stupid reasons which in turn creates havoc at home. My entire childhood was spent trying to outwit, outlast, and outplay my brother to earn the title of “Last Sibling Standing”. Some fights ended within a few minutes and some would take several hours or days to resolve. But these sweet memories linger around you throughout your life.
Siblings know our real selves more than any person that has ever existed on this planet. They’ve been through all our mood swings, and have covered up for so many of our blunders and mistakes. Sharing secrets among siblings is very common because no one understands you better than them. Intimidating them to reveal all their secrets is that usual weapon each one of us resorts to, even when deep down we knew that secrets will always be safe with them, no matter what happened. Come hail or high water. It’s a trump card which can be used innumerable times to force your sibling to do something against their will. It’s fun when you play the first move but doesn’t remain fun once this card is being played on you. But it is easy to get them on your side; Cadbury always does its job, you know!
Older siblings are the ones who will pick on you for their own entertainment and beat up anyone else who tries.
As we fight our way in this unpardoning and cruel world, they will always defend you from all evil even before you realize it. After a certain point in life, there comes a time when you start to lose the bond you shared with your friends, family and relatives; sometimes even your parents don’t seem to understand you. When you don’t have anyone by your side, you’ll always have them holding your hand and fighting against all the odds just for you. They’ll fight with mom and dad just to defend you, even if they get a scolding for it. They perfectly cover up all your mistakes. Elder siblings become our second parents. You can share all your problems with them without any fear; with a satisfaction in your heart that if there is an answer to your problems then it most probably lies with them (though they sometimes act way too bossy for your liking). Being the powerhouses of experience and knowledge, they can drive you out of any situation with the best possible advices. They can teach you a lot about life, people and situations. There is so much to see, and even more to learn from them.
They try to keep up with your life, so that they can help you when you lose yourself somewhere in the crowd of attractions, worldly pleasures and achievements. They’re holding your legs on the ground while you have your head in the clouds, so that you don’t fall. They’ll watch our favourite shows; they’ll learn up the names of all our friends, they’ll even listen to our new playlist to know about things we aren’t sharing with them. They are probably the only one in your family who knows about your crushes even when you haven’t told it to them directly. They get to know it, somehow. Believe it or not, they try really hard to remain a part of your life and they do all this with joy.
Last year my studies took a hit. My marks weren’t something I would take pride in. I was really disappointed and let down by myself. Life seemed to have lost purpose for me because of those marks. My parents were only adding to my worries at that point. Just then my sister stepped in, she told me to not be disappointed as marks were only a small part of one’s life, over which one shouldn’t lose sight of the bigger picture. What matters the most is how you look at your bigger picture and how you work towards achieving it. She told me not to cry of what is gone, but to learn and grow from what I have learned through those mistakes. We don’t always recognize the “good” in the “bad”. Those simple words worked their magic that time. In short, siblings can be great mentors and while only you can make the way to your future, they in some way or another play an important part in shaping it. They expect nothing in return, which makes them deserve much more than just gratefulness.
They have sacrificed a great deal for us, starting from giving away their favorite chocolate to sacrificing their dreams so that you can live yours. They have done it all for you but they have never let it count. They might be in tremendous pain or might be going through a turbulent time, but they’ll forget every pain of theirs when you call them for help. You can’t think of another person in the world who you’d act in the same manner around. And more often than not, people think you two ARE a couple when you’re out together. At the end of the day, there’s nothing stronger than a brother and a sister’s bond.
SIBLINGS are like stars. You don’t always see them, but you know they are there!
Songs have a VOICE of their own. Sometimes they say more than words ever could. Aren’t siblings like songs, you seem to need them every now and then? So here are some of the songs I would want all of you to listen to –
- Memory – Barbara Streisand
- Count On Me – Bruno Mars
- Brothers & Sisters – Coldplay
- You’ve Got A Friend in Me – Randy Newman
- You’ll Be In My Heart – Phil Collins
The power of the sibling relationship is often over-shadowed by the value we place on building good parent-child relationships, friendships and marital relationships. The fact is that no bond is typically longer, stronger or more comforting than that between siblings.
Note: Just do one last thing for us. Go hug your brother or sister, tell them how important they are for you and how much you love them for all the things they have done for you.
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